Showing posts with label random act of kindness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label random act of kindness. Show all posts

Monday, February 23, 2015

The Trouble with Twenty

I found twenty bucks!



Who would've thought that walking the dogs one frigid morning would bring me twenty dollars?  There it was in the snow.  Bentley almost peed on it.  I looked around instinctively to see if anyone was in the immediate vicinity who may have dropped it.  Nope.  I thought of leaving it there for whoever dropped it to find when they went looking for it.  That was silly.  No one was around.  The wind would blow it away.  Snow would fall and cover it and then a plow could come rip it up.  The decision was made.  I picked it up and brought it home.  Then the question became, what do I DO with the money?  I placed it on my desk and contemplated the possibilities.

As the bill stared back at me over the next couple of days, I made a mental list of all the things I could do with the extra money.  The church bulletin I picked up on Ash Wednesday contained some opportunities for donation.  They were even giving out coin boxes to use for collecting money to benefit children in India.  I thought of many different excellent organizations to give to.  The bulletin also contained "Service Opportunities" and I remembered the priest speaking about donating time.  He also spoke of self sacrifice (for Lent) and reminded us that we could spend a little less time online and call a relative instead.  To use our time in service of others is a great sacrifice for Lent, as opposed to giving up chocolate, he said.  I wondered where the money would really make an impact.  The trouble was that in the grand scheme of things, twenty dollars didn't really seem like it could change the world.  Then I thought about THAT.  I asked myself what would I want to change.

I realized something.  I was actually making a mental list of various ways I could make a difference, or effect positive change if I could.  Then it hit me.  I could do all of those things anyway - I didn't actually need the money to do any of them!

A few big things occurred to me.  One is that we can easily use money (or lack thereof) as an excuse.  I mean, if I wanted to make a difference in young people's lives, I could volunteer somewhere or help someone with their homework.  I could babysit and help a child learn their alphabet.  Did I really need to find twenty bucks on the street to remind me of that?  And what about that Easter candy drive that the church is having to make Easter baskets for children in local hospitals?  Did I really need to find money before I donated a bag of candy for a basket?  And what about ourselves?  Why not invest in ourselves?  Why not buy a book and learn something?  Then pass it on?  And in what creative way could this money grow?  Is there some way to make it multiply?

The possibilities were endless.  I continued contemplating as I drove to Bridgeport, CT on Saturday to see a show that friends of mine were hosting at the Bijou Theater there.  It was called "Your Time to Shine."

BiJou Theater stage, pre-show 

Band member, Apollo Joe, Matt

Show Flyer - with Joe Gray, Capone and Matt

From the show flyer


There they were - Apollo Joe, Capone and Matt along with a band, a panel of judges, a dedicated theater manager and a bunch of bright eyed kids and adults sharing their time and talents.  It was simply beautiful.  It was a living example of all the things I had been thinking about!  Nervous contestants went up and performed while a house full of supporters showed their love and appreciation with applause, admiration and the purchase of their twenty (or twenty-five) dollar ticket.  I had a great time and met some very nice and interesting people (how about that lovely woman next to me who was both a body builder and an opera singer?).  Being there warmed my heart as I remembered being a nervous contestant myself at the Apollo Theater, where I met first Joe (with whom I went on to perform countless shows and who first introduced my husband Russ to Mr. Ray Chew).  I was called up on the Bijou stage as a guest performer and was happy to sing a duet with Joe.  Then there was the popcorn bucket...


Toward the end of the show, someone from the theater presented Joe with an empty popcorn bucket in which to collect donations to help maintain the theater.  Here was a perfect example of people working together to make a difference in a community, in the performing arts, and in children.  He placed it at the front of the stage and people filed forward to cast their bills inside it.  A broad smile spread across my face as I realized where my extra twenty was destined.



Before I had left the house that evening, I wrote a draft of this blog.  Part of it said, "I will find a way to pay this forward in hopes that someone else will be inspired to pay it forward too."

Twenty bucks.  In the grand scheme of life, it's not that much.  It won't make anyone rich or poor by itself, but think of all WE can DO!  What if I matched the twenty I found?  What if I left it somewhere with a note saying:

Dear whoever finds this: 
Please use this to help someone in need.  

What if we started a trend called "Give a Twenty"?  What if we all showed someone else a random act of kindness with twenty bucks (or a twenty minute chunk of our time)?  "Twenty Buck Tuesday"?  Feel free to post your ideas, or just smile and know that you did something in your own way (not to be shared), but let's #GiveATwenty (or #GiveTwenty) and spread some love. #WayToBe

Thank you to everyone who inspired me this week.  Much love...

Namaste,
T

Monday, January 20, 2014

The Ripple Effect…


Last week,  I heard a story about a kind deed.  A man offered another gentleman a ride because that gentleman's car had broken down.  As it turned out, the gesture was reminiscent of a similar act that gentleman had experienced years before, and brought back the memory of how a similar kind deed had led to massive positive changes in his life.

That one original random act of kindness had a ripple effect.  The beneficiary of the kind act (the man who received the ride from a complete stranger all those years ago) felt so overwhelmed with gratitude that he went out into the world trying to give back what had been given to him in kindness.  It transformed him from being a man struggling to keep his business afloat and make ends meet, into a man known for his kindness and generosity and who built his business upon those principles; and he eventually became a pillar in his community with a thriving business and admiration from all within it.  Here he was again, years later and in need of a ride – and another random stranger had given him one once more.

“We can do no great things, only small things with great love” 
– Mother Teresa

It occurred to me that we don’t have to be rich and famous to help people or to make an impact on the world.  We can all help a friend in need or smile at a complete stranger.  The possibilities are endless.  We can volunteer somewhere, make that donation we’ve been thinking about (even if it's just taking that old coat to the Salvation Army), take a few extra minutes to help a child with their homework, call that relative we’ve been meaning to reach out to, etc.  The impact that we have may be much larger than we even know.

Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach. Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely. It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good.
What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of acts, adding, adding to, adding more, continuing. We know that it does not take everyone on Earth to bring justice and peace, but only a small, determined group who will not give up during the first, second, or hundredth gale.
                            – Clarissa Pinkola Estes


Another recurring theme for me this week occurred when I kept hearing people talk about the need for self-nurturing and Love.  Alright...  Let's mash those up with a kind deed and together, they can create another sort of ripple effect…

We all know that we can't take care of others without first taking care of ourselves.  But also, when we take care of ourselves, we can cause a ripple effect that emanates from within.  Sometimes it seems easier to give than to receive.  But when we learn to graciously receive, we can be that much more inspired to pass it on.  When we nurture ourselves we are stronger, more at peace, more confident.  We may, in a split second, make one small decision that increases what we put out into the Universe in terms of positivity – and who knows, it may end up having a wonderful positive impact on someone else.  It happened to me today…

I’ve been working tirelessly on what seems to be our semi-annual migration to the big city (this time, it's back to the NYC area).  My WONDERFUL mother-in-law invited me to go to the nail spa with her and my AWESOME sister-in-law (and I am NOT just saying “wonderful” because she offered to treat us – God bless her! Nor am I saying “awesome” because she offered to give us her leather couch – God bless her too!).  Even though I had a TON of work to do, I thought it would be nice to take a little break and spend some time with them, as well as enjoy a little self pampering.  :)

On my way to meet them a woman approached me and asked if I knew of a taxi company in the area.  I was just getting into my car on the street after coming out of a bagel shop in a town that I was completely unfamiliar with.  I apologized and said no.  I honestly had no idea who to call.  I saw her disappointment, so I suggested she use “yelp.”  That’s what I would use to find one on my phone.  She didn’t have access on her phone.  As I got into my car I could hear her calling a friend trying to figure out her next move.  I could have (and might have) driven off just then, but I thought, what the heck?  I could find her a cab company couldn’t I?”  I looked it up on my phone, rolled down the window and gave her the number.  She dialed but it didn’t seem to work.  Ok  I gave her another number.  As she tried again and seemed to be having trouble, I just dialed from my phone and handed it to her when I had the taxi company on the line.  She ordered her car and handed the phone back to me with a smile on her face from ear to ear.  She was glowing with appreciation.  I smiled too… it felt good. 

What if we all just committed some random act of kindness this week?  Even if it's just something that seems small?  How about if it's even just some self-nurturing or Loving thing for yourself?  (I can think of a few mothers I know who admit that they wouldn’t even have the slightest idea WHAT they would want to do for themselves if they had a free hour).  And why NOT start with yourself?  Your own happiness can most definitely start a ripple effect…

Why not do something for yourself, then go out into the world and SHINE and PASS IT ON!

Namaste! xoxo

Danielle, Me and Mom-Graham at the nail spa...